Lisette Ostrander, Ph.D.
Certified Life & Sex Coach
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I’m Lisette Ostrander, Ph.D, a Certified Life and Sex Coach and the founder of the My Kind of Pleasure community.
I believe life and sex are deeply intertwined. How we relate to our bodies, desires, and sexuality shapes how connected, confident, and alive we feel in intimacy and in everyday life. When that connection is lost or never fully developed, women often assume something is wrong with them or that feeling flat or disconnected is just how life is now. I see this differently. Disconnection is learned and changeable.
​​​My Journey
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For over 20 years, I’ve worked in the education and social and emotional learning space, creating programs for youth, educators, and communities to foster connection and a sense of belonging.
In 2019, I was drawn to sexual wellness, mindset, and thought work. This new passion started a transformational chapter in my personal and professional life.
Since then, I’ve hosted 10 events in collaboration with leaders in the health and sexual wellness field, serving over 240 women. I’ve created inclusive spaces for conversation about sex, pleasure, and the menopause experience, and launched the Amazing Women Series to celebrate incredible women each week.
In 2023, I was certified as a Life Coach with The Life Coach School and had the opportunity to train with some of the best Master Certified Life Coaches in the field.
In 2025, I completed the 600-hour, year-long VITA™ Sex, Love & Intimacy Coaching program with Layla Martin, including an additional 350 hours of coaching required for certification.
My Work
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As a Life and Sex Coach, I integrate the ancient wisdom of sex positive cultures with cognitive, social, and neuroscience, current research in sexual health and wellness, and embodied practice.
My work supports women in restoring connection to their bodies, desires, and inner experience rather than fixing or forcing change. Through this integrative approach, women strengthen self-image, shift limiting subconscious and mindset patterns, and cultivate erotic intelligence, the capacity to stay connected to desire, pleasure, and aliveness as life evolves.
Whether I am hosting group programs, working one on one, or creating resources for the My Kind of Pleasure community, my goal is to give women access to practical, embodied tools they can return to again and again. These tools help women deepen connection to their bodies, clarify desire and boundaries, and relate to sex and life from a place of self-trust, confidence, and aliveness so change is not just understood, but lived.
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Let's Connect
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If something here resonates and you are curious about what this work could support for you, I invite you to connect. Whether through a conversation, a program, or a shared space, we can explore what it looks like to restore connection and cultivate more aliveness in your life and in your sex life.
👉 You can reach out directly or book a complimentary discovery call to begin.
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